What Not to Tell Your Kids During a Divorce

Breaking the news of a divorce to children can be difficult, to say the least. But sometimes, the details you omit from your children can be just as important as what you leave in. Today, we're discussing what details you shouldn't tell your children if you intend to file for divorce.

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Don't Tell Lies

Kids are more intuitive than they often let on, and even younger children can often see through the lies of their parents. If there's a time when well-measures transparency is important, it's during a divorce.

The last thing you need or want is for your child to speculate reasons for the divorce if they know you're lying to them. Obviously, you may need to tell some lies or half-truths depending on your child's age and the circumstances of the divorce, but try to be as truthful with them as you can.

Don't Badmouth the Other Party

Unless the other party's bad behavior plays a significant role in the divorce, as may be the case when divorces involve actions such as domestic violence, you should try to avoid talking badly about your soon-to-be-ex.

In most cases, if you share children, you'll end up co-parenting post-divorce. Starting off that co-parenting relationship on the right foot can help your child thrive, and it can be difficult to do so when your child has a negative impression of the other parent or has told them you're talking badly of them.

Don't Tell Your Children to Stop Expressing Themselves

As a general rule of thumb, if their behavior isn't harming them or their futures, try not to press judgment on your children for reacting badly to the divorce.

It may be difficult, but try not to take your child's reaction to the news of the divorce personally. Different children will react in different ways - what's important is encouraging them to process their emotions in a healthy manner.

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