How to Tell Your Children About Divorce

Telling children about an impending divorce is never easy, but doing it right can help your children process the dissolution of your marriage more easily. Today, we're here to give you some tips for how to tell children about divorce.

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Work with Your Spouse (if Possible)

If you and your spouse have a combative relationship or another factor such as adultery or domestic violence plays a key role in the divorce, you may understandably want to avoid working with them to tell your child about the divorce.

However, if you're on somewhat amicable terms and can find an opportunity to do so, telling your child about the divorce with your spouse may be a good idea. It can help reinforce to your child that you and your spouse will continue to support them throughout the divorce.

Prepare a Script (& Answers)

Telling your child about an impending divorce is probably not the best time to improvise. Whether you're doing it alone or with your partner, you should prepare what you're going to say in advance.

As part of that process, you may also want to prepare answers to questions your child could have, such as:

  • Do you both still love me?
  • Will I need to go to a different school?
  • Who will I be living with?
  • How long will the divorce take?
  • Why are you divorcing?
  • How will my life change?

Having answers to such questions will go a long way towards setting your child's mind at ease.

Consider Working with a Developmental Psychologist

A developmental psychologist will have the tools to help you understand how your child may react to news of a divorce depending on their age and level of maturity. They can be an invaluable resource both leading up to and after the divorce if you want to make things go as smoothly as possible.

At Levi Divorce & Family Law Attorneys, we can help you pursue the best path forward in your divorce for your children. To schedule a consultation with our team, contact us online or via phone at (718) 215-0121.