Co-Parenting Tips: How to Handle Spring Break After a Divorce

One of the best ways for families to shake the winter blues is with a fun-filled spring break. However, following a divorce, figuring out a fair spring break schedule that works for you, your kids, and your ex-spouse can be difficult to say the least.

How Do You Split Holidays When Co-Parenting?

For kids, holidays can often feel magical in a way that they don’t for most adults. That’s one of the reasons why missing time with their children during the holidays is so difficult for parents. Time spent witnessing their kids experience the magic of the holidays is irreplaceable. Unfortunately, a downside of divorce is that parents must miss time with their children during the holidays because child custody agreements can call for parents to split holidays evenly.

Splitting holidays can mean different things depending on the details of the custody agreement. In some cases, it could mean that each parent gets full custody for certain holidays. For instance, maybe one parent gets the kids for Memorial Day weekend and the other parent gets them for Labor Day weekend. However, splitting holidays can also mean that each parent gets the children for part of a holiday. For example, maybe each parent gets the children for half of Thanksgiving break or half of Christmas Day. No matter how it’s divvied up, splitting time is often the fairest way to handle co-parenting during the holidays.

Co-Parenting Tips for Splitting Time During Spring Break Following a Divorce

Co-parenting during spring break is particularly unique because it’s not a specific day, but an entire week or so. With that kind of time, families can take vacations or staycations designed to give them quality time together that they normally wouldn’t have. Unfortunately, following a divorce, it can be hard to figure out the logistics of which parent should get the kids for spring break, or if the children should split time between the parents over the holiday.

To make the decision a little less difficult, we have put together a list of tips for splitting time during spring break after a divorce:

  • Refer to your custody agreement – The best-case scenario for deciding child custody during the holidays is to already have a plan in place in your child custody agreement. If you and your ex have a child custody agreement and you included a plan for the holidays, then refer to that. If you are in the process of negotiating a child custody agreement and want to include a plan regarding spring break, there are several options available. You and your ex could alternate years, or you could divide spring break in half evenly each year. What if it’s not your year, but you want to take the kids that particular year for some reason? Talk to your ex. Maybe trade your spring break time with the kids the following year for their time with the kids this year. Or trade some of your time with the kids during winter or fall break to have the kids entirely to yourself during spring break.
  • Keep the lines of communications open – Don’t shut your ex out. Co-parenting is a two-way street. You must keep each other up to date about what’s going on with you as it pertains to your children. If you and your side of the family have a special vacation planned for spring break but it’s not your year to have the kids during spring break, let your ex know and try to negotiate time for the children to attend the gathering. Chances are they will have similar circumstances come up in the future and you will have the opportunity to return the favor.
  • Respect your spouse’s rights and put your children first – Let’s say your ex-spouse has a chance to take your children on a once-in-a-lifetime trip during spring break but it’s not their year with the kids. What would you do? If you let them go, you could be sacrificing time with your kids that you’ll never get back. However, if you make them stay, you could be denying them the opportunity to enjoy a once-in-a-lifetime vacation. At the end of the day, your kids deserve the opportunity to spend time with both their parents and vice versa. So, in situations like the example above, try to be flexible and understanding as much as you can. Show your children that you and your ex can work together to do what’s best for them, which is, ultimately, what co-parenting is all about.

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For a parent, what’s best for their children always comes first. At Levi Divorce & Family Law Attorneys, we understand this. A poorly designed child custody agreement can have a devastating impact on the lives of parents and their kids. It is crucial that every aspect of a child’s relationship with each parent is considered when creating a child custody agreement. This includes holidays, which can be seminal moments in the lives of kids and their parents.

Our experienced family law attorneys work with clients to ensure their rights and what’s important to them is prioritized during child custody negotiations. We realize that the details of a child custody agreement can serve as a turning point in your relationship with your children and we do everything possible to ensure that it’s a turning point in the right direction.

For more information about child custody, co-parenting, and splitting time during the holidays, contact us online or give us a call at (718) 215-0121 for a free, no-obligation consultation. We are available to take your call 24/7.