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Managing the Emotions of a Divorce

Working Through a Difficult Time

Some may describe divorce as one most challenging times of their lives, and while that may not translate to a lengthy courtroom battle, some fail to realize that divorce can significantly impact your emotions and mental health. You may feel waves of anger, sorrow, depression, anxiety, rage, and other emotions throughout the process, and those emotions can be difficult to manage on top of working through your case.

Know that your feelings are important, and you should take whatever steps you can to improve your mental and emotional health. Here are some ways to help you do this.

Work Through Your Grief

When you experience loss of some kind (and in this case the loss of a relationship and of a marriage), it’s normal to feel grief and struggle through the process. Acknowledge your feelings as real and valid, and allow yourself to work through the grieving process in a healthy way.

You might be familiar with the stages of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, sorrow, and acceptance. How you work through these various stages will differ from person to person, but going through these stages is a completely normal process.

However, what this means is that you cannot allow yourself to linger in one stage for too long. Remaining angry that your divorce is happening, for instance, could cause you to act out throughout the process that could ultimately lead to poor decision making.

Avoid Social Media

As great as social media can be to keep up with your friends and family, it’s very easy to use it as a means of comparison. People flood their social media feeds with exciting news and pictures of the best moments in their lives, and consistently seeing only the good things in people’s lives can make it very easy for you to fall into deeper emotions of sorrow and depression.

Comparing your life to others’ lives on social media only robs you of your joy in life. It may be better to log out of your social media apps and avoid them altogether throughout your divorce. You can still message people as you need to; just be sure to limit your use to that purpose.

Remember to Take Care of Yourself

When you are overwhelmed and struggling to manage the weight of your emotions in a divorce, it can be easy to focus on the path in front of you and forget to take time for yourself. You might forget to eat or choose to skip meals, or you may even have trouble sleeping at night.

You must take the necessary steps to practice self-care and take care of your body. Start by taking care of your body through eating healthy foods, exercising, and getting regular rest. Even treating yourself to relaxing activities can be a great help to you.

Focus on Moving Forward

It can be very easy to think back to the moments in your relationship with your spouse and wonder where things went wrong. You might try to pinpoint certain events that occurred and try to connect them to where you are at now. However, doing so can contribute to feelings of being trapped in the past.

While there may be moments where you reminisce on the good moments, it’s more important to look ahead at the fresh start ahead of you. Divorce is a long process, yes, but at the end of it is a new beginning, a chance to start over and carve out a new path for yourself. Moving forward allows you to truly enjoy this experience.

Do You Have Questions About Divorce?

Divorce can look like a scary process, and the uncertainty about what your life may look like on the other side can leave you with questions. Ask those questions of an attorney who has helped people go through divorce and can help you get an accurate picture of what your situation may look like when your divorce is finalized. At Levi Divorce & Family Law Attorneys, our team of attorneys can help you process everything happening in your life as we guide you throughout the divorce process. You are not alone; we are here to help.


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